Okay. Now that I’ve set the motivation in the previous post, I must write now.
Note: As I was writing the post below, I discovered that the same advice applies to me as my sister. After all, we share the same blood.😉
Today I want to write about my sister. I admit I’ve been highly skeptic about writing this first, but when the feeling of helplessness grows, I feel disharmonious and the need to vent out.
She has an amazing concentration span, perhaps the result of doing only what that she feels like, as she says, with the intensity of a genius. She likes to call herself a perfectionist. And true to her word she is. And this trait reflects in her being. (I know she’ll even point out grammatical errors in this article) All her canvases, poems and writings are enriched with intense emotions, which can only be delivered through an undivided focus. I envy her concentration skills. She makes me wonder why can’t I do the same. But I want to say to her, “Hey! Be assured, this is a fine quality you have”. She can achieve success in whichever field it be, if she keeps on with the same attitude.
“I reckon you telling me once that this perfectionist attitude does take a toll on you. (Man! I envy your ability to share your mind as well!). It doesn’t let you relax. You aren’t satisfied ever, for there is always something more to be done, mightier than before. You worry if you’ll ever be content with what you have…
Now to the purpose of writing this post.
“I’ve got a very noble and practical suggestion for you. Something which even you surely would have acknowledged a lot of times. It’s called ‘Appreciation‘. And out of all the people who can possibly advise you this, I’m the last one learned enough to vouch for it’s validity. For I definitely seem to lack it, or perhaps, forget it too often that it even exists.” (Just like memory, it can also be skillfully learnt and practiced). But when I realize the frailness of life, it silently dawns on me.
“But why will you benefit from Appreciation? What can it do?
Firstly, let’s go through some your achievements. Daman! You’ve got some stuff done. Pretty impressive stuff which has been created with blend of a perfectionist attitude, unconditional love and care to the utmost detail. Stuff which was once only in the mind but now has been materialized. Hmm… I’m referring to the numerous small creative pieces you made and now possess. From the rainy poems to the one with the gummy treats, from the canvases describing the saga of confusing pipes to the alluring Buddha face, from a Joe Hardy fanfiction to the ones giving a detailed account of Jansen Ackles’ facial features, from early childhood oil-pastel paintings rich with colors to those intricate mehandi patterns at mom’s hands during Karwachauth, those vibrant rangoli patterns and footsteps of Goddess Lakshmi at our front door during Diwali, and not to forget, those priceless books whose lives you’ve had lived. I’ve seen you laugh and cry with them. No doubt, they have mysteriously shaped your personality, something beyond my know-how. I cannot know of those worlds. All these must tell wonderful stories. I’m proud. I’ll read these too.
Apart from these achievements, there are relationships we can appreciate and which can show us the way. We’ve been blessed to born to a very cute pair of parents. So cute that they devote all of ‘their’ time to us. So demanding have been their jobs but still we’ve been raised (and still being raised) with selfless, unconditional love, with our wishes being fulfilled at their first utterance from our mouths. Be it anything, at stroke of any hour, our Bajaj Chetak’s engine would roar with no delay. We’d many times had to wait in our neighbors’ homes after school, as our parents had to work. But still, we never ever felt their absence. It’s like they are always around us. Monitoring us, blessing us. We’ve been so blessed with a mother who sometimes had to face domestic violence in earlier years of her marriage, but she never let it show to us. She’s so inspiring, every single time. So blessed are we to have a grandmother who was paralyzed for more than twenty years of her married life. And we’ve have a grandfather who is so adjusting, that one may wonder if he has any wish of his own. To add, we have a lovely support system in form of our extended family. We’ve been provided with so many free ‘jeans’ which I can hardly count now as I look back. And not to forget those paranthas made with pure love and desi ghee at our Naani’s house.
You see, these people make our lives so special. It’s like we’ve been raised like stars.
“Okay. Sorry that I got carried away. Back to Appreciation. Hitting the head of the nail, if you learn to appreciate these pieces of art which you’ve created, books you love and the relationships you’re fortunate to have, you’ll be reminded of your bliss. All of these might sound unprofessional but they’re important reminders. They can remind you of the amazing skills you possessed when you created them. They might not be career-oriented, but they know the way to your home, to what you like to do, and what you like to be. You see, all of these things have an apparently hidden mission: they shall always remind of your spirit, your unique flavor.
“I know it’s time to focus making a good living and making a career out of it. Priorities have to be changed accordingly. You’ll probably make friends who help you in your process of self-realization. You may find that special someone, whom you’d never want to be hurt. You may be a gorgeous mother and get to experience what it’s like to see a small living body, just like you, born out of you. I hope it’ll be an amazing feeling. All in all, there’ll be ups and downs. And I also realize that we may have to leave each other some day.
But isn’t it what each one of us humans has gone through for the past billion years and still HAS to go through!
I hope you be just as you are, doing what you feel like, with that same unparalleled devotion, because it’s what you do best, and I’d never have it any other way. I don’t want you to change. Ya! Keep pestering me. It’s the juice of my life. But if you ever be astray, and it seems like you can’t find something convincing enough, know that there is a way out there, just around you, and even inside of you, in what you already have and what you’ve already achieved.